Maddie Celebrated her 8th Birthday on Friday! She had a Shopkin Party and had so much fun!!
Elizabeth and Samantha really put the party on. We got the house decorated and then the girls took over. What amazing daughters I have.
On Monday for Family Home Evening we talked about the 5 Love Languages. I had us all take a test so that we could discover what our love language is and be able to help each other feel loved. The results were very eyeopening.
Derek--Physical Touch and Quality Time
Lexia--Words of Affirmation and Quality Time
Elizabeth--Words of Afirmation and Quality Time
John Derek--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Samantha--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Maddison--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Michael--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
WOW! Did you notice a pattern? This really hit me hard. These were not the ways I wanted my kids to feel loved. They probably feel loved those ways because those expressions of love are not given out as often as service and words of affirmation.
Receiving Gifts--I am very guarded in how I spend my money. My kids know I am "stingy" and so if I spend money on them it is a big deal. So how do I show them love without breaking the bank?
Quality Time--I am also notorious for multi tasking and I have a hard time giving my full attention to my kids. So when I do they eat it up. But then I get overwhelmed because I feel like they just crave more and more and I get overwhelmed and clamp up and pull back thus taking that time away from them and leaving them wanting more.
I am definitely in my overwhelmed frustrated, everything's my fault and I can't do anything right state of mind. I am feel that my time is not spent wisely and having a hard time focusing on anything and knowing where to spend my time. I usually just freeze up and eat and don't do anything or piddle around. Okay I am rambling. . . .
Today I was listening to a book by Elder Eyring entitled, Because He First Loved Us. In the second chapter he talks about time. He tells us that we have to change our mentality about time. That time is an asset the Lord has given us. He encourages us to invest is wisely and then we will have a wonderful return on our investment but if we waste it and spend it on the wrong things we will have to use more of it in ways that will not bring us happiness.
What an interesting idea. I think as I have pushed my kids away in order to get more "me" time I have actually caused me to loose the "me" time because I have to do so much for them that they can't do on their own because I haven't taught them. When I don't teach and don't encourage and try to multitask, thinking I am getting more things done, I am actually causing them to need me more, to be more dependent on me so that when I do give them some time they smother me.
I don't know how to "fix" it yet. But I like the idea of investing my time in my children so that some day I will get a great return, I hope that return will be love and enjoyment from being together.
Elder Eyring continues to talk about how we need to do 3 things. We need to have Confidence in God that what He asks us to spend our time on will be the best thing for us and that we need God to have Confidence in us that we will do what He asks of us, and we need to instill in others Confidence in God. This is what I do want for my kids. I want them to have confidence in God and that He can have Confidence in them.
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| Elizabeth Made the Cute Cupcake Ice Cream Cones |
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| Daddy helped with the Pinjata, photography, and mom's sanity. |
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| Elizabeth also made a punch out box for the girls to punch and then get prizes. It was a huge hit. |
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| Samantha painted a "Pin the Sprinkle on the Shopkin." |
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| Mommy Made a Strawberry Shopkin Pinjata. It reminded me of when my mom would make us pinjatas at almost every party. |
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| Samantha instructed the girls on painting a letter. They all wore garbage bag smocks and had a delightful time. |
On Monday for Family Home Evening we talked about the 5 Love Languages. I had us all take a test so that we could discover what our love language is and be able to help each other feel loved. The results were very eyeopening.
Derek--Physical Touch and Quality Time
Lexia--Words of Affirmation and Quality Time
Elizabeth--Words of Afirmation and Quality Time
John Derek--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Samantha--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Maddison--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
Michael--Quality Time and Receiving Gifts
WOW! Did you notice a pattern? This really hit me hard. These were not the ways I wanted my kids to feel loved. They probably feel loved those ways because those expressions of love are not given out as often as service and words of affirmation.
Receiving Gifts--I am very guarded in how I spend my money. My kids know I am "stingy" and so if I spend money on them it is a big deal. So how do I show them love without breaking the bank?
Quality Time--I am also notorious for multi tasking and I have a hard time giving my full attention to my kids. So when I do they eat it up. But then I get overwhelmed because I feel like they just crave more and more and I get overwhelmed and clamp up and pull back thus taking that time away from them and leaving them wanting more.
I am definitely in my overwhelmed frustrated, everything's my fault and I can't do anything right state of mind. I am feel that my time is not spent wisely and having a hard time focusing on anything and knowing where to spend my time. I usually just freeze up and eat and don't do anything or piddle around. Okay I am rambling. . . .
Today I was listening to a book by Elder Eyring entitled, Because He First Loved Us. In the second chapter he talks about time. He tells us that we have to change our mentality about time. That time is an asset the Lord has given us. He encourages us to invest is wisely and then we will have a wonderful return on our investment but if we waste it and spend it on the wrong things we will have to use more of it in ways that will not bring us happiness.
What an interesting idea. I think as I have pushed my kids away in order to get more "me" time I have actually caused me to loose the "me" time because I have to do so much for them that they can't do on their own because I haven't taught them. When I don't teach and don't encourage and try to multitask, thinking I am getting more things done, I am actually causing them to need me more, to be more dependent on me so that when I do give them some time they smother me.
I don't know how to "fix" it yet. But I like the idea of investing my time in my children so that some day I will get a great return, I hope that return will be love and enjoyment from being together.
Elder Eyring continues to talk about how we need to do 3 things. We need to have Confidence in God that what He asks us to spend our time on will be the best thing for us and that we need God to have Confidence in us that we will do what He asks of us, and we need to instill in others Confidence in God. This is what I do want for my kids. I want them to have confidence in God and that He can have Confidence in them.
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